My son Liam is 2 now and growing fast in so many ways every day! As he begins to talk a lot more and understand a lot more, I’m becoming more aware of how to help Liam nurture and grow his natural psychic abilities.

I am very aware of how my spiritual abilities have grown in my 37 years of life, and I have an understanding of who Liam is as a soul that my parents didn’t have until later in life.

Many of you have lamented, “If only I knew about these things when I was a kid!” Well, if you are a parent, you now have the gift of sharing a spiritual understanding with your children that you never had at that age. No matter how old your children are, it’s never too late. Even if they are adults and have left home, they will benefit from your spiritual growth. The age of your children will dictate how much you say and how you say it. I’ll let your common sense figure that part out.

I’m not a perfect parent by any means! (Is there such a thing?) But today I want to share with you some things that I’ve done with Liam in the hope that these tips will give you some ideas to do with your own kids. (Or if you don’t have children, your nieces, nephews, cousins, friends, etc!)

1. Teach them how to clean.

Liam has done his own version of cleaning since he was 14 months old. We went to a summer camp in Osceola, Iowa in July of last year and everyone was cleaning up. He learned It just by watching and learning!

Now we clean every night when I put him to bed. We also clean up his favorite stuffed toys, so it also becomes a fun game for him.

Children are never too young to learn to clean. It will help you to be relaxed and not pick up unwanted thoughts and feelings that do not belong to you. It will help you tune in to your own angels and inner guidance so that you are more aware of your sensitivity. If they feel pressure, you can tell them to get clean so they feel calmer and more relaxed.

2. Allow them as much freedom as you can handle.

Part of your role as a parent is to keep your children safe and to know the limits of society. Right now I’m very aware that Liam doesn’t quite understand the idea of ​​not running in front of cars, so I’m cautious in public parking lots.

But in other areas, I’m taking a step back and stretching its limits. When he’s safe in the house, I no longer need to watch him all the time. He is learning to play alone with his toys.

This past weekend we went swimming in the lake. I sat in the shallow end and allowed him to run and play. There were a few times when it stumbled and went under, or went slightly out of its depth. Rather than immediately save him, I stayed behind to see if I could do it myself. He was close enough that if he was really in danger, he could grab him. But I allowed him his own learning opportunity.

As your children get older, you will constantly be stepping back and allowing them to do more and more things on their own. Giving your children the freedom to learn from their own experiences is the best thing you can do for them spiritually. I think it’s more important than any grade they get in school! They will learn to be independent, free and TRUST themselves.

Self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness are rampant in our society. The doubt originated as a child, and instead of learning to trust his own sensitivity, the adults around him intervened and told him what to do based on their concepts of right and wrong. Slowly but surely, you learned to wait for someone else to tell you what’s right, instead of trusting what you felt inside.

You can reverse this pattern with your children by giving them the freedom to listen to their own inner guidance. The more practice they have with this when they are little, the more empowering it will be for them as adults. You won’t have to spend years relearning to trust your intuition, it will come naturally to you.

3. Learn your order of spiritual gifts.

We did the orientation profile for Liam when he was 2 months old. I learned that his order of gifts is Intuition, Feeling, Vision, Prophecy. Knowing that he is an Intuitive first helps me communicate and direct him in the way that he operates best. Intuitives need to listen to instructions and are natural leaders. They like to be in action and achieve something. Liam loves to keep busy and participate. Intuitives also have a genuine concern for people. This morning, Liam picked a flower from the lawn and told me that he would give it to Tracy (his babysitter). He held that flower in his hands the entire car ride and gave it to Tracy when we arrived. What real concern!

By learning the order of your child’s gifts, you will know how to work with them. You will be more patient and understanding. This is especially important if your child has a different gift than you. If you have a tube, be more patient with them. It takes a while to get a solid feel. If you have a visionary, show them how to do something, don’t tell them. If you have a prophetic, be patient with them, as they seem to be going in 10 different directions at once, and nurture their creativity. If you have an intuition, give them clear verbal instructions and then leave them alone to do it themselves.

4. Share your unconditional love with your children.

The most important thing you can do for your children is to let them know that they are loved. Be sure to communicate this externally; don’t assume they know. An outdated concept is that children become self-centered when they think positive things about themselves. When I was young, I heard things like: “Don’t be too big for your boots” or “You are yourself” or “You are effort” (As if trying is a bad thing?)

That didn’t come directly from my parents, more from the kids at school. But if kids say it at school, it shows the concepts they are learning about the world around them. I grew up in New Zealand, so the phrases you heard may be slightly different. But I’m willing to bet that you learned similar concepts of not standing out from the crowd or showing off.

It is as if society wants us to be mediocre. We need to reverse this by sharing with our children that they are amazing, perfect, and loved. They can feel good about themselves and be proud of themselves. Instead of holding back, they will learn to take risks and succeed.

5. Don’t take their behavior personally.

The way your children behave is not a reflection of you. You can’t take it personally. With Liam, he’s 2 years old, so he sometimes throws a tantrum. At that point I have a choice as to how I will respond. I could get angry, angry, etc. I might wail, “Why is he throwing a tantrum now, the only time we’re already running late?” That would be making it about me. He may feel that his child is punishing him in some way.

But really, it has nothing to do with you. If your child is misbehaving, there is something else he is trying to communicate. They are showing you that they are upset. That is all. They are not out to ruin your day!

The best thing you can do is be patient. Don’t do it for you. Instead, take a deep breath and discern what your child is really trying to communicate. Often when they are little, they just don’t have the words to describe it. When they are older, they may act to get your attention in some way.

With Liam I have noticed that he has a tantrum when he wants to do something on his own, and I did it for him. He wants to be independent. So I use this trait to invite cooperation. When it’s time for him to go to day care, I don’t say, “Okay, stop playing and get in the car.” That alone would make him scream!

Instead I say, “Can you show me how you put your shoes on by yourself?” and run to him!

In general, the best thing you can do is to be an example to your children. They don’t learn from what you say, but from what you do. The more you stay relaxed and patient, they will too. Enjoy the greatest journey of spiritual growth you have ever experienced in this lifetime!