What is one of the most destructive things women engage in in relationships? Wonder.

Wondering what he thinks, what is he doing, where he is, who he sees / knows, if he still loves you, misses you, why hasn’t he called / answered you … It all goes downhill from there. Stop … don’t be a “Wonder Woman”, occupy your mind, even watching crap like Keeping Up With The Kardashians or Jersey Shore. That is better than feeding doubts about yourself.

That’s why don’t get exclusive until he commits. Don’t depend on one man and be at his mercy. Exclusivity without compromise rarely works for women. It always drives both parties crazy. Why is that?

Exclusivity does not mean compromise. In fact, it doesn’t mean much. Of course it feels good when we know that you are not watching / sleeping with someone else when you are watching us. But it also limits your options. Women always tend to focus their psychic energy on the relationship much more than men. Because he is the only one we have right now, he is also the only one that we focus all of our desires, satisfaction of emotional needs and affection on and men often find this very suffocating.

So the effect is that instead of pulling you closer and wanting to engage, it repels you from what you perceive as your clingy needy behavior and insecurity. We often cannot avoid such behavior when we put all of our eggs in one basket.

So next time you ask yourself again, date those great men you put online and practice your female magnetism. You’ll be happier, and he’ll start to wonder why you’ve been acting so good.

And without compromise, he can – and will – end his relationship with you once he finds someone better for him. And they’ll leave you in the dumpster, heartbroken and feeling used. On the other hand, when you keep your options open, you will find yourself very mature, confident, content, and like a goddess to him. That means that you will be much more irresistible to him in more ways than one. In his eyes, you are a valuable woman who is fun to be with and he can’t wait to spend more time with you. And again.

And when he knows that you are in demand and he will not wait for him, he will also find you much more desirable. Now he needs to step up his game, otherwise you will be taken away.

Scarcity works in both marketing and dating (which is basically promoting yourself to the most suitable suitor). It is an eternal law of nature.